As part of the pre-marital counseling for the Catholic Church, we had to head 45 mins away to a counseling center for the first of three sessions.
Step one (the only one we've done so far) was to go take a 165 question test. On a Scantron sheet! There were 16 categories to measure our matching-ness. I think most were pretty reasonable questions about children, money, temperament, etc. Some were really weird, like "How flexible are you when you solve a problem?" The faith ones were also difficult, because it was things like "Our faith and spirituality bring us closer." And I was thinking, well no, we're pretty different, so I'd mark "Disagree" but Mr. SB thought well, it doesn't drive us apart and we're pretty similar spiritually/morally though not religiously, and he'd mark "Agree." So we might spend a little time discussing that part.
Overall, it did give us some interesting things to talk about and mostly we felt pretty good that we're a good match. Next step (in three weeks) we talk about the results. We're aiming for 80% agreement! :)
Interestingly, our counselor (therapist? I don't know what to call her) is one of 7 girls married to an only child. We talked about a few things that were so similar between our two situations (her & her husband vs. Mr. SB & I) and were very encouraged that they have been married 34 years. :)
Did you/would you consider pre-marital counseling?
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